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A prospective adoptive family that can provide a nurturing and secure environment for Alexandria, as well as patience with her behavioral issues, will be best suited for her. Because of her competitive tendencies and constant need for undivided attention, a family without other children would be ideal so they could focus more of their time and attention on Alexandria. An adoptive family must recognize that parenting Alexandria may not return instant gratification and an attachment may be superficial at first until trust can be built and it may be years before they receive an emotional return from her. Parenting Alexandria will require relentless love, patience, encouragement, and understanding, and the reward will most likely come from giving her a home and a family. She needs to receive individual therapy, needs stability and consistency. An adoptive family should be open to working closely with the YFA post adoption clinical coordinator.
When considering becoming Alexandria’s forever family a family must concretely understand all of her past losses and must be willing to wholeheartedly embrace her loss as a part of who she is. When she suffered her adoption disruption it was still a loss even if she “designed” her behavior to avoid the sociability of family as described by her adoptive family. Some children’s deprivations are so deep that family care is almost impossible for them to accept; they have travelled so far from being able to trust. But nonetheless these children are entitled to leave the adoptive relationship with dignity and mementos (life books, treasured goods); additionally, they are entitled to the best placement suited to their needs beyond the disrupting family. Recovery from an adoption disruption is slow, and like all loss, recovery passes through stages. These stages are necessary and are best accomplished with support, care and counseling. Since Alexandria is diagnosed with a seizure disorder an adoptive family must be willing to routinely monitor her condition through the guidance of neurology specialists every three months and daily administering medication. “I’m just looking for a forever family to call my own”-Alexandria
Meet Alexandria ……..
Alexandria is a kind hearted and soft spoken twelve year old African American female. Alexandria enjoys listening to R&B, Hip Hop, and Pop music. At the moment, her favorite musical artist is KE$HA. Alexandria can stay content for hours at Books A Million or the local library enjoying many different types of books. Her favorite series is Harry Potter and loves all the books in the series the same. When she was placed in her previous adoptive home, Alexandria participated in soccer, girl scouts, and musical theatre. Alexandria was in such musical productions as “Reaching for the Stars”, “Chrisinder’s Christmas Gift”, “The Nutcracker”, and “Alice”. Alexandria reports that she enjoys Chinese food and her favorite meal is Teriyaki Chicken. In looking into the future, Alexandria sees herself as a mechanic working on all types of cars. Alexandria hopes to find a family who enjoys horseback riding as much as she does. Alexandria states that she wants a family who “won’t hurt my heart and will like me for me”. Alexandria hopes for a family to spend her next Christmas with.
Alexandria’s foster mother described Alexandria as “a likeable child who likes to keep to herself and seldom gives eye contact when speaking with someone”. As a typical preteen, Alexandria has some moments of “defiance and attitude” but overall is “delightful”. According to the foster mother Alexandria remains guarded about her past abandonment which may contributes to her low self esteem. The foster mother believes that team activities will assist with her self esteem and will force her to form healthy relationships. The foster mother believes that Alexandria would do best in an adoptive home where both parents understand Alexandria’s grieving process and can remain united when it comes to discipline and boundaries so she is not able to manipulate. Alexandria uses manipulation as a tool to assert power in the home and guarantee her needs are met.
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